Trauma, and Great Expectations
Two new podcast episodes
Two recent podcast episodes of Crazy In Love for you, with my colleague and friend and co-host Matt Wotton. Links are to Apple Podcasts, but you can find us on YouTube and other podcast apps by searching for Crazy In Love.
First, on trauma. Big "T" trauma. Little "t" trauma. The likes of Gabor Maté and Bessel Van Der Kolk have brought the understanding of trauma far beyond the field of mental health and into everyday life.But what actually is trauma? How does it impact people's personalities? If everything difficult is labelled trauma, does that dilute our understanding and treatment of it? And, of course - how does trauma manifest in relationships? What are the links between trauma and Adverse Childhood Experiences? Between trauma and attachment styles?How do couples deal with their trauma in healthy ways?All this and more covered in this episode of Crazy In Love.
https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/trauma-relationships/id1757846831?i=1000723208672
Second, Great Expectations. In the modern world, we are told to look for romantic partners who "complete" us. They should not only be someone who we love, but also someone who encourages us to live our best life, to achieve our individual goals and self-actualise.This is a big shift in the last fifty years. We're increasingly sceptical of relationships like the Clintons built on security and shared socio-economic or career interests.But this is asking too much of our relationships. We can't expect one person to offer us security, help us raise our children, but also be exciting and dynamic and help us grow as individuals. So how can love absorb all these expectations? If we are asking too much, how do we shift our expectations in more realistic but healthy directions? Matt and I try to weave their way through these tricky questions.
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